"I have always thought that if you want something with all your heart and soul, you get it." -Vivien Leigh As silly as it sounds I think that you can be anything you want, get almost everything you want and do anything you want. But the most important thing is that you do it for yourself. I used to think that I had to rely solely on others to accomplish what I wanted. But this year I am realizing that all you need is you. I used to think fulfillment was a guy. I lived in a traditional house with a house wife mother and a breadwinner father. She started dating my dad at fifteen and married him at eighteen and then had me two years later. As much as I love her dearly her life pretty much has been defined by my dad. I used to think that I'd get married and then my happily ever after would come. I actually said I would go to college "just in case I don't get married." My goal was to get married so I could have kids and be able to stay at home with them. But I'm 21 and realized slowly but surely that if I want something then I should work my heart out to get it. Do I really want to rely on any of the guys I know to control my future. Hell, no!I'm doing what makes me happy. Waitressing and saving money to by my house. And do you know how satisfying it is to be able to do things on your own. I want a simple life without all the complications that a guy brings . And why should I wait for a guy in order to start my life? If I want things badly enough I will get them.